Would you punish your teen for having sex?
Posted: May 18th, 2010 | Author: admin | Filed under: Uncategorized | 16 Comments »I don’t understand that reasoning. Sex is a natural act, people are going to do it since people are sexual beings by nature. That includes teenagers.
So, why do some people think punishing a teenager for doing something as basic and natural as sex is really going to fix anything? Since when has punishment replaced education?
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I’m not a parent, but I was a teen once. Punishments and prohibitions meant only one thing to me….that I needed to be more stealthy in getting done whatever I wanted done. Not many teens are actually told "go ahead and have sex all you want," yet many are still pregnant, getting STDs, etc., so obviously prohibition doesn’t work.
You can’t ever just "make" someone not do things. You can only educate them to the point that they’re making an eyes-open decision, and then hope and pray they’ll make the right one. If they make the wrong one, then they’ve got to live with the consequences and so do you.
My parents had a pretty realistic approach to things, and didn’t freak out over things not freakworthy. As a result, I kept my nose pretty clean, avoided things I knew (thanks to them) I’d wind up regretting, and was never afraid to seek their advice on things most teens wouldn’t.
Because its under age and would you want a kid when your a teen? You might but its a huge responsibility and your not fully mature
uhhh no. We just go to the store & get the rubbers.&.make an appointment at the doc for birth control
I think that when parents punish their kids for having sex that they are lazy parents for one, ovbiously they didn’t educate their kid enough and two they don’t supervise enough.
If my teen went with her boyfriend (whom she was going steady with) to the clinic, had a full panel of STD testing done on both of them, both came up clean, she had been on birth control pills for over a month and they used a condom with spermicide…. I wouldn’t punish her.
How many teens actually play it that safe? It isn’t the act of sex that upsets parents, it is the chance of getting STDs or pregnant. I fully accept teens are going to make their own decisions, be them good or bad, but I don’t want my 15 year old to ruin her life with herpes because her boyfriend claims to love her.
Yes and No first idk why when kis are younger they are taught that sex is bad and well it is normal and natural altho their is a time place and a age in which it is completely normal i say 16 is completely ok if they use protection and well are mature anyone younger make sure they know yes it is normal but tell them to wait until they are the right age other than that i think people shouldnt tell all the kids it is bad that is how i learned and now i think why id lie to me about this like everyone does it and well if the kids know better they wont go out and do it i wont anyways
there’s a legal age when teens can have sex.
and hello! sex is only natural because humans need to reproduce. it’s not just for leisure. babies are a lot of responsibility and many teenageers are not ready for that, so punishing the teens will only stop them getting pregnant at an early age.
Sex can be a beautiful thing, but it is just like fire. When you have fire inside of a fireplace or a pit, then it can bring warmth and comfort and fun with marshmallows. If you take the fire out and put it on the floor, it can cause a major fire. That is like sex because when people have sex inside of marriage, then it can bring happiness. If you have sex outside of marriage, it can bring problems like an unwanted baby, a broken heart, and other things I don’t want to mention. If your teen already had sex, then just have this conversation with her. If it brings a baby, don’t abort it, tell the father first and if he doesn’t step up to the plate, and marry her, then put the baby up for adoption. I sure hope I helped you make the right decision.
no. i think its stupid. when my people tell me not to do something it makes me wanna do it that much more. and then when they punish me for it then i do it more. so they dont tell me no or punish me anymore, and i dont do anything wrong
punishment and fear has always kept me from having sex as a teenager. My parents were very strict, but i don’t know. In this society, sex as a teenager, isn’t supported…they’re just basically too young.
I would only punish if I found out my kids were having unsafe sex. If I’m going to go through the trouble of telling them about STD’s, unplanned pregnancies, ruining your reputation by sleeping with every girl who will let them, and supplying them with condoms, they should at least be courteous enough to listen. If I did find out they were ignoring my warnings, I would find a baby to borrow for a few days and make THEM do everything for it. (while I supervise, of course) And I would probably have them watch a video of a mans organs after getting an STD and see if it changes their minds.
I know teens are going to have sex. I just want to make sure when they do, it’s safe and not a huge mistake that they later regret.
If i walked in on my teenager having sex she would be punished, because she doesn’t understand the full effect of being a mother by one tiny mishap. If they got pregnant without me knowing, then i would just be disappointed and make her be responsible, but i wouldn’t punish her because getting pregnant at such a young age and ruining her whole life ahead is punishment enough.
Edit: Give me a thumbs down, but whatever. Thats what would happen in my household, and you have no right to judge.
God bless you!
I don’t think teenagers need to have sex, and i also do not believe parents should punish kids for having sex. We can’t stop kids from having sex… this is where common sense comes into play
You are right, sex is a natural urge/act… yes many kids will have sex in their teens. That doesn’t make it a sound choice — the majority of teenagers are not emotionally or financially prepared for sex or the consequences thereof.
the best parents can do is talk with the kids…
If your teenager has had sex the deed is done – too late for punishment and there is no going back.
Making sure that they are using safe sex and keeping channels of communication is more important once they are sexually active – My mum was a "no sex before marriage" type of person – she was quite liberal and aproachable on everything else but that was her "thing"
I never really discussed my sex life with her – but remember what I got up to behind her back! – and that was 30 year ago!
There is a time and place for everything. Even natural acts. Using the toliet is a natural act, but I would punish my teenager for doing it in the street.
The time and place for sex is marriage. My child is not a dog who has an ungovernable compulsion to hump anything that is in heat. My child is an intelligent human who has the power of impulse control.
No, I would buy them birth control and make sure they use it, like you said you need to explain why it is a bad idea to have unprotected sex (getting pregnant) and what they can do to be as safe as possible, they’re going to it either way.