Question about young teen sex and pregnancies?
Posted: March 18th, 2010 | Author: admin | Filed under: Uncategorized | 24 Comments »I have a question about teen pregnancies regarding children and teens between 12-15, 1st off for that age group I noticed alot of kids asking "I am pregnant and scared to tell my parents" If kids are scared to tell there parents knowing when they have sex that pregnancy can occur then why put yourselves in that position, my son is in the 5th grade and there is a 12 year old girl in his class who is about 6 months pregnant its extremly sad to see that. I understand things happen but why so young? These kids arent even old enough to work, drive, and dont have a full education yet so how would they give their children the knowledge they need to sourvive as young adults? Why are the ages getting younger and younger when it comes to sex and getting pregnant? Has todays society ruined our children because everything in the media is sex? What can we do as parents to provent this from happening to our children?
I know there are alot of great kids out there but what is happening to the other kids that ruin there childhood for sex?
ASHLEY, The girl apparently was retained due to poor grades I belive she should be in the 6th grade. My son will be 12 in April and he is in the 5th grade also thats because he had to repeat 1st grade due to ADHD matters. It happens
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Im sorry but thats a result of poor parenting. If her parents new where she was at all times she would not be pregnant. If they had Been more involved in her life, and not all about themselves.
My son is 15. I know where he is at all times. If he goes to a ball game he has his cell, and knows if i call I BETTER HEAR THE GAME. He also knows i have a tendency to check up to make sure he is doing what he has been allowed to do. If not the privilage isnt easy to get again.
Im sorry but the one who said it was due to parents working outside the home,….. that in my mind is a total cop out, a lame excuse. I am a working mother, My ex doesnt come around or pay support, Yes I WORK BUT I STILL DO NOT ALLOW MY CHILDREN TO RUN AMUCK. I am very active in their lives, and yeah I dont have alot of ME time, but I gave up the ME time when I made the choice to become a mommy. I dont regret it either, its the best decission I ever made.
what in the world is a 12 year old doing in the fifth grade first of all was she raped and i dont know what she was thinking if she wasent they dont even think that it is nasty anymore it being promoted by music movie , on tv its like if you have sex with them if you are in a good mood or just like the person it dose not show young kids getting pregnat and the consequences.
Today’s society has most definitely tricked teenagers minds into thinking having sex is ok. I’m 16 and I know premarital sex is wrong…
I don’t think it’s ever going to change, they don’t have any morals these days.
Kids should have more respect for their bodies and keep their virginity until marriage.
You saddened me when you spoke of the 12 year old girl who is about 6 months pregnant. I have a cousin who is 13, I don’t see her alot anymore, and I think she’s well on her way to getting pregnant. I just pray for them…
Man, I wish I could somehow make a difference… But it seems like only me and like 2 other people believe in doing right! It’s crazy…
Because some parents are ignorant and think, "oh, my child would never do that." It is lack of education. Although it is disheartening to see such a young child going through such an adult thing you have to think, where were her parents? Parents are too quick to blame society and other children as bad influence, but the blame lays at their feet. Talk to your kids. Only allow them to go out in groups and know all of their friends. Pick them up and drop them off. Become a part of their life. Sometimes it’s better to give up your job and tighten your belts to spend more time with your kids.
I think you hit it on the head. Today’s society promote sex. Hardee’s was selling a hamburger with Paris Hilton sex appeal. Why? What made you fo want to buy that burger after seeing that commercial. So I think our young girls are so vain, and they want to be appreciated, so they reach out to boys. When you have boys and girls around each other it’s bound to be something. I think we try to shelter our kids so long and not tell them the truth about things thinking they are not ready, but the truth of the matter is while parents are waiting on that "perfect day" to express to their kids about this stuff, they are exposing themselves to it, and now it’s too late. When you hear about 12 year olds pregnant, it makes me sick to my stomach. One of my cousins got pregnant when she was 12, had the baby at age 13. This is ridiculous.
Here’s what concerned parents can do to protect their children: Monitor their TV viewing, use parental controls on the remote. Same thing on the computer and video games, know what they are watching and doing. Know their friends, don’t let them go to friends’ houses that you don’t know personally. Keep tabs on them at all times, know where they are and who they are with. Young children who are having sex don’t have all the facts, talk to your kids about sex, early and often. Don’t wait until you think they are "ready", it might be too late.
Children are starving for attention and affection now that both parents have to work outside the home.
Add MTV and all the sexual filth they are watching on television to fill the void and poof! You have a recipe for disaster aka: Teen Pregnancy
It is really sad, but until we parents get our priorities straight and realize that our children are more important than the BMW or the multi-level home with top of the line furniture… Until we moms realize that looking like the cover of VOGUE is not what being a mom is all about… Until we moms get back home and start raising our own kids instead of letting the big corporation’s marketing campaigns raise them… we are only going to see things getting worse and worse and worse. I am afraid this is only the beginning.
We may have to give up some material luxuries by becoming stay at home moms, or working part time, but in the end it’s worth it if our children are loved and cared for and well adjusted.
Our societies problem is that we are greedy and glutonous and we have our eyes on material things rather than what matters most, FAMILY!
I believe the problem is that everyone talks about sex and how much it means to a person. Like oh sex is sooo great it makes you feel great blah blah. And young minds arent all the way done growing up just yet, and they think oh sex let me try it… I do wish young girls would understand sex more better its not all that great, you get stds and you can get pregnant. I first at sex at 15 and well the guy soon left and i was crushed my feelings were hurt so bad cause i thought i was in Love. I believe thats the next problem, LOVE its misunderstood a lot. They think oh let me have sex with him because i LOOOVE him, when its just their feelings out of wack from chances in their body. It is sad to see a 12 year old pregnant but sometimes its not because they had sex sometimes its because they were raped by someone they knew. Its a crazy world out there and we need to do something or tell these kids something that will get in their head, i have a daughter and im scared to death when she turns 13 and up cause i dont know what times will be like when shes that age! It scares the living shit out of me. I believe we need to scare the kids its no use telling them NOT to have sex cause their going to go right behind our backs and do it. We need to scare the shit out of them. Show the pictues of stds… so the pictures of people with AIDS, tell them a 12 year old body isnt ready to carry a baby to term.
I personally feel that this whole issue and many others, concerning young children are happening because of the SYSTEM. They tell us that we are not permitted to punish our children when they need it. we are not allowed to do this or not allowed to do that. BECAUSE WE CAN AND WILL BE CHARGED WITH ABUSE of somekind. The system says that it is parents today that are the reason the kids are the way they are… i dont believe that it is the parents. i as a parent of 5 children am totally disgusted with the system. You cant even riprimand you child in public when needed. my 2 yr old twins throw temper tantrums in stores and i get the dirty looks because they are throwing the fit and i am telling them that they should settle, (IN A STERN VOICE).
as for the pregnancy and sex thing, i think that has alot to do with tv. even your everyday sit coms have that stuff in it now a days, like it is acceptable or something to show on tv. And the clothing that these children wear to school!!! WOW!! i would of been kicked out 15yrs ago for wearing it.. something needs to be done somewhere somehow, and it REALLY NEEDS TO BE THE SYSTEM!!!!
I have no idea i’ll be 17 in 2 months & i’m going back tomarrow to find out if i’m preggers for sure or not but when i was 12 sex was the last thing on my mind. i don’t understand how a 12 y/o’s body could even handle being pregnant it’s crazy. i think it will change though b/c i certainly know that if i’m pregnant w/ a girl she will be raised alot differently than i was.
as for you retards do the math alot of kids are 12 in 5th grade. thats one late b-day or one repeated year or they weren’t mature enough for findergarden so they went late. stop being stupid
talk to children before they ask because if they are asking it’s because they have been thinking about it for a long time.. no serious dating until 18 and dates before 18 should be supervised..
I know what you mean! It’s scary to think about the future challenges that lie ahead for us as parents! Even if our own family values are firmly in place, peer pressure is a powerful thing!!
When I hear about 12, 13, 14 year old girls becoming pregnant I think of one thing:
When were they unsupervised with a boy long enough to become pregnant?
To me this is a failure on the part of the parent. There is absolutely no reason (in my mind) that a 12 year old and their "boyfriend" should be alone together…ever! They are too young to have that mature of a relationship. If they want to get together outside of school, then they can go on a group outing with a bunch of friends…and a parent needs to drive to insure that is ACTUALLY is a group outing. And it needs to be just that…an OUTING. I think it would be a lot harder for young kids to have sex if they were at the bowling alley then it would if they were at someones house unsupervised!!
I think the expectations of society are making it too easy for children to pretend to be in an adult relationship and too easy for PARENTS to allow their children adult freedoms at a younger age!
I have been wrestling alot with this very subject lately because I am the mother of 2 girls (ages 7 and 3) and just found out I have another baby girl on the way.
I got pregnant at 19 myself, and know the challenges that young mothers face. Granted 19 isn’t all that young anymore for pregnancy, but it is still very young.
I have come to the conclusion that education is key. I am planning on not only explaining to my children that pregnancy and raising a child is a very real, very hard thing to go through, but that unfortunately it is pretty much the least of their worries when having sex at a young age. AIDS is a killer, not to mention the plethora of other STD’s out there that don’t have cures. I’m going to make sure that my girls understand all ramifications of premarital sex from the minimal (ie…a ruinied reputation and self-esteem issues) to the life altering ones (ie…pregnancy or AIDS). Hopefully, armed with the true knowledge of sex will help my girls make an informed decision about what to do when the temptation presents itself.
Educate your kids because the fact of the matter is you can not make that decision for them!!!
Hope this helps anyone else struggling with what to do on this matter.
This is what happens in all liberal Societies, very sad. I blame Parents. It is natural that kids gets curiosity during puberty, irrespective of Culture. It is against nature also. In a human girl internal organs gets ready to bear a child at the age of 18. Parents should give proper training to girls before they attain puberty, and for boys also. According to me, teen age pregnancy is very common in, most developed Countries and in most under developed Countries. In a Country like India where population is 2nd highest, and number of illiterates are also more, with out sex education in any grade, teen age pregnency is almost nil, compared to its population.
Lack of good parenting
Lack of good judgement on the teenagers behalf
Teenagers think they know everything coming and going. I do not know why they all act like they cannot get pregnant. I think that is a total and utter shame about the 6th grader pregnant. Why aren’t her parents in jail? That is just not right. I bet she is still in a training bra and she could possibly die when she does give birth.
I think if your going to be grown up enough to have sex then you should be grown up enough to go to the doctor and get on birth control.
My god they give out free condoms at the health department. I do not understand why teenagers want to grow up before they have too but alot don’t because they throw their mistakes off on their parents and the grandparents are the ones raising their own grandkids which is pathetic on both parts. Once i have my children raised i will not raise anyone else’s.
It is my place to raise mine and if my children get someone pregnant or they get pregnant it is their place not mine.
I do not believe for one second about sex in the media is giving all these teens the ideal that they should be having sex. I seen movies, tv shows and all of that with sex on it and did i run out and have sex? No
When i decided to have sex i was adult enough to go and get on birth control. I am still with the one i first had sex with and that was well over 11 years ago.
We are married now and have a son together & i am expecting baby #2 in december but i am in my late 20′s. I could not have raised a kid in my teens, i wouldn’t have wanted too.
It is pitiful that a young girl would do that to themselves but i don’t feel sorry for them, they shouldn’t have been having sex in the first place. It is their own fault for getting pregnant unless they were raped.
well i guess parents let her go out or something if they ed talk to her soon enough about sex and how hard it is to take care of a baby especially that young of age MAYBE it couldve been prevented.but unfortuneeatly we cant always be keeping an eye on our kids
WOW 12 and pregnant. What a rough life that is going to be for her. I was a mom at 19, my life was tough enough and I graduated from high school! My son is now 11 and thank God he has no interest in girls. But I do know boys his age do start to notice girls, I had no idea that they actually have SEX THAT young!!! I am going to have to have "the talk" this week! I talk to him about drugs but since he isn’t interested in girls yet I figured I have a few years before I have the talk.
I’m guessing this girl in your son’s class has a bad family life. For someone that young to turn to someone makes it sound like she doesn’t have a father figure in her life. Kids never think anything bad is ever going to happen to them, and then when it does, they ask why. Sex ed is so important for kids, even at a younger age. So many parents feel awkward discussing sex with their child, but if it’s going to save just one girl from getting pregnant, then it’s worth it. What’s even more sad is the thought of this young girl falling through the system because nobody spoke up for her. I feel sad for her.
My daughter was 14 when she got pregnant. I didnt find out until she was 2 months along. It had nothing to do with my parenting, I dont think. she has a good life. I think she AND her so called boyfriend at that time made all the wrong choices and now she is paying the price of being a young mother. She also has me supporting her. she wanted an abortion but I am totally against that. The dad is no where in the picture. BUT I didnt pull my daughter out of school. I looked around to see the alternatives, and to my surprise there is a school called young parents. and that is where she went her entire pregnancy and still goes there. Its not only her future she has to think about its also her sons. he is 9 months now and I couldnt be more proud of my daughter.He also gets to go to school with her.She is gonna graduate and make something of herself. And it is because she has parents who stand behind her and accept her rights and wrongs nobody is perfect in this world. I do agree with you about kids being younger and having sex. Alot of it has to do with the parents being to busy with work and other things. that is my opinion. the only solution is to be open with with them talk let them know that there are ALOT of concequences with sex. Let them know about CONDOMS!!!! someone will eventually listen. there also is a place called planned parenthood.
Because USA teenagers are idiots. And their parents don’t raise them to have sex inside marriage.
i can’t believe her parents are letting her go through the pregnancy. if my daughter got pregnant at that age i’d rush her to the hospital to get an abortion immediately and then think about putting her in boot camp or something!
i don’t think a 12 year old should be pregnant at all!
i think teen pregnacies are caused by parenting
Sex is everywhere: music videos, media, movies, advertisements, etc. The media is teaching children that sex is okay and is "the thing to do." Sex is for love and creating children, but that’s changed over the past years because there are about 10-15 teenage girls at my school who are pregnant and about 30 of them at another high school in my city. It’s terrible. This seems to really bother you (it bothers me) so how about I tell you something; I am sixteen, and sex is for adults only. Sex is an expression of love and creating children. I will never have sex until I am married (or at least financially stable). Does that help? Just a little? Hope I did help!
OK. Look i am 16 and i know girls who have had sex since they were 12 and gotten pregnant. I have to say that in some cases maybe it was their parents fault for not teaching them, but i really think that it is their fault. Parents can in fluence their children ofcourse but, if they really want to have sex, they are going to they can not stop them!!!! The media also has nothing to do with it! These kids are just stupid! Sometimes there are situations that are more complex though. you need all the facts!